🌱 Flourish Group: Assertiveness Skills 🌱
Understanding Your Rights
In our Flourish Group, we emphasize the development of assertiveness skills, crucial for personal growth and self-advocacy. A key component of assertiveness is recognizing and asserting your rights, which often involves shifting from traditional assumptions to a more rights-oriented mindset.
🎨 From Assumptions to Rights
🔄 Traditional Assumption: It's selfish to prioritize your needs.
🟢 Legitimate Right: You have the right to put yourself first sometimes.
🔄 Traditional Assumption: Making mistakes is shameful.
🟢 Legitimate Right: You have the right to make mistakes.
🔄 Traditional Assumption: If others don't find your feelings reasonable, they're wrong.
🟢 Legitimate Right: You are the final judge of your feelings and they are legitimate.
🔄 Traditional Assumption: Respect and do not question authority.
🟢 Legitimate Right: You have the right to your own opinions and convictions.
🔄 Traditional Assumption: Always be logical and consistent.
🟢 Legitimate Right: You have the right to change your mind.
🔄 Traditional Assumption: Be flexible and adjust to others without questioning.
🟢 Legitimate Right: You have the right to protest unfair treatment or criticism.
🔄 Traditional Assumption: Never interrupt. Asking questions shows stupidity.
🟢 Legitimate Right: You have the right to interrupt for clarification.
🔄 Traditional Assumption: Don't rock the boat.
🟢 Legitimate Right: You have the right to negotiate for change.
🔄 Traditional Assumption: Your problems shouldn't take up others' time.
🟢 Legitimate Right: You have the right to ask for help or emotional support.
🔄 Traditional Assumption: Keep your pain to yourself.
🟢 Legitimate Right: You have the right to feel and express pain.
🔄 Traditional Assumption: Always take advice seriously, as it's often right.
🟢 Legitimate Right: You have the right to ignore the advice of others.
🔄 Traditional Assumption: Knowing you've done well is reward enough. Avoid showing off.
🟢 Legitimate Right: You have the right to receive formal recognition for your work and achievements.
🔄 Traditional Assumption: Always accommodate others to ensure they're there for you.
🟢 Legitimate Right: You have the right to say “no.”
🔄 Traditional Assumption: Don't be anti-social. Others will think you dislike them.
🟢 Legitimate Right: You have the right to be alone, even if others would prefer your company.
🔄 Traditional Assumption: Always have a good reason for your feelings and actions.
🟢 Legitimate Right: You have the right not to have to justify yourself to others.
🔄 Traditional Assumption: Help others in trouble without question.
🟢 Legitimate Right: You have the right not to take responsibility for someone else’s problem.
🔄 Traditional Assumption: Be sensitive to the needs and wishes of others, even if unspoken.
🟢 Legitimate Right: You have the right not to have to anticipate others’ needs and wishes.
🔄 Traditional Assumption: Always be concerned with the goodwill of others.
🟢 Legitimate Right: You have the right not to always worry about the goodwill of others.
🔄 Traditional Assumption: Give an answer when questioned, even if unsure.
🟢 Legitimate Right: You have the right to choose not to respond to a situation.
🌟 Reflection and Growth
Living according to your rights, rather than being confined by outdated assumptions, empowers you to regulate your emotions and care for yourself more effectively. Embracing self-advocacy enables you to show up better in many aspects of your life, fostering growth and well-being.